![]() Rapport building (earning trust, empathy, comfort, active listening)Īssessing if mutual good fit (personality, communication style, therapy approach, values) ![]() Don’t push yourself too much to share before you’re ready. You’re essentially building a relationship with your therapist. You might feel anxious, unsure, worried, scared, and ambivalent about seeking therapy and starting treatment with a new clinician. This stage focuses on getting to know your therapist, your therapist getting to know you, building the therapeutic relationship, and identifying what you want to work on and how to get there. Know that your journey is unique to you, your identities, and your experiences. This certainly is not an exhaustive list of what to expect when healing from trauma. With grief comes rage, anger, and indignation You begin to tap into your inner child and wonder what they desperately crave and desire and since others may be unable or unwilling to give them to you, you begin the process of re-parenting your inner child ![]() You Start Grieving For What You Never Hadīecause you allow yourself to feel and emote more, you are able to understand the concept of the inner child You begin learning to live in the moment (rather than the past or the future you begin slowing down and enjoying the little things) You learn how to differentiate between danger, safety, and trust (especially in your body, rather than just relying on your brain/head/logic all the time) You begin understanding your triggers, vulnerabilities, and stressors (and make an actionable plan moving forward) Your triggers begin to guide you toward healing (rather than control and manage you you understand where the triggers come from, what you need, and how to interrupt the cycle of sabotage) You stop laughing at your traumas (You learn laughter shrinks you and a way to distract from pain) You Stop Reacting Less (And Start Reflecting More) You begin to shift the core belief of self-reliance into interdependence, community, and connection (it’s nice to spend time with certain people rather than being alone all the time) You allow others to see you cry, frustrated, sad, grieving, and helpless (humanizing yourself as perfection doesn’t exist) Perhaps you share more vulnerable parts of yourself with others You begin understanding your needs and wants (rather than focusing on others’ needs and wants) You begin asking for your needs and wants (rather than assuming others can read your mind) You slowly allow more people into your emotional inner life (your walls starts falling down) You Reach Out More For Support & Ask For Help (Rather Than Isolating) You understand somatization: that some of your physical symptoms are a result of mental health or psychological issues (e.g. You’re more welcoming of touch like hugs/embraces from other people (especially those you care about and trust) Your body softens and relaxes because you are learning to establish safety in your body You have less somatic issues (headaches, migraines, stomaches, stress, fatigue) ”I really enjoy spending time with other people on the weekends. ”I really enjoy spending time by myself on the weekends. I might say no to that invitation tonight.” ”I don’t have to have all the answers to everything.” Let me a pause and reflect on this right now.” This pattern keeps happening over and over. “I wonder what’s really going on underneath my need to please others right now.” You start talking to yourself in ways like: “What would really happen if I disappoint other people and tell them no?” “Do I really want to take on this project right now if I really listen to myself?” ![]() “What does my body need right now to rest and recuperate?” Rather than doing things to distract, numb, or keep busy, you start from a place of intention and value. Practicing Living Mindfully (Rather Than Mindlessly) You validate and more fully understand your emotions rather than try to fix or get rid of themĪnger begins dissipating and decreasing (turns out sadness, loneliness, confusion, helplessness, and pain was underneath) You allow yourself to cry (tears are a shower for the soul) You Begin Feeling Your Emotions (Rather Than Minimizing Them) Here are 6 of the most common things I’ve noticed as clients heal from trauma. ![]()
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